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on January 31, 2014


blog pics word of the week

Ok so I’m not sure that ‘Ha’ is actually classed as a word by definition.  (I’m not going to even check because frankly, I want this to be  my #WordoftheWeek.  I hope Jocelyn at The Reading Residence, whose linky this is, doesn’t mind.

On with my blog then…

“Ha!” is the word that came to mind immediately after reading a blogpost by Sarah Ockwell-Smith about Gina Ford’s book ‘The Contented Mother’s Guide’.

Now there’s various reasons why I didn’t agree to follow Ford’s strict routine for our little bear.  All of the reasons are basically outlined by Ockwell-Smith in her blog.

The point that particularly struck a cord with me was on PND, which I have blogged about before.  In my opinion, Ford’s book is actually very dangerous.

The reason and question being: why put any more pressure on a new mum/parents to feel ‘perfect’ then there already is?  Yes, I appreciate that the book should perhaps only be seen and used as a guide.  But the fact is that a sleep-deprived, anxious, doting, confused, hormone-possessed, post-natal mum simply wants to do their best for their newborn and is often desperate for advice.  Fine.  Seek advice.  But surely only parents are ‘qualified’ to do so?  I don’t believe that Ford is a parent!

Ok, I’m ranting but this topic really does infuriate me…

PND is dangerous.  PND is very much taboo, with every new Mum wanting to look like they’re coping in a pink (or blue) fluffy world and not wanting to ask for help (until PND has got them in a vice-grip).

New mums need support, not an air-brushed sign post in the form of this book.

That’s my opinion.  What do you think?


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4 responses to “Ha!

  1. You make a good point. I remember reading Ford when I had Boo. I got the basic concept, but there was no way I’d have tried to follow it to the schedule – it’d have been exhausting and stressful, so yes, I see your point there. But then, can she help some people get control? I don’t know – I just know she wasn’t for me! And yes, I’m sure ‘Ha’ is a word 😉 Thanks for sharing with #WotW x

  2. HA! indeed- Little B got into a routine when he went to nursery but before that every time I thought I had a handle on him he changed!

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